Many of us who walk the infertility road often form strong attachments to our fertility specialists especially since they probably know way more about us than any other human being on the planet…inside and out…literally. I was no exception, Dr. F walked on water as far as I was concerned. Even though technically, according to my husband, Dr. F didn’t really do anything to make this latest pregnancy happen I feel that we don’t really know and everything that he did or didn’t do up until this point may or may not have had a hand in this little one being created. Either way I am grateful for his patience and dedication over the last year and a half. So much so that I decided to write him a heartfelt thank you letter.
Here is what I sent:
Dear Dr. F,
I just wanted to send you a note to say thank you for all of your support and help over the last year and a half. Your kindness and patience always made me feel at ease. The infertility journey is a long and difficult one but you and your staff helped to make that road a little easier. I know we still have a long way to go with this little one and I am hopeful that things will work out. Hopefully we got a “good egg” this time. I will continue to keep you posted on our progress. Again thank you again for everything you have done for us.
Renee and Vinny
A few weeks later I received a typed letter from Dr. F. I was like a kid at Christmas opening it up. This is what I found when I opened it:
Dear Vinny and Mary,
Thank you for your letter. Your kind words and thoughtfulness are appreciated.
All the best,
Who the F is Mary??!! Dr. F doesn’t even know my name?! I really thought I was special…maybe even one of his favorite patients. He certainly got my husband’s name right but the person who’s shit he was poking around, sometimes on a daily basis, that’s the name he gets wrong! I was reassured by my friend that it was most likely written by his secretary so it was really her fault. Even still, I feel like a cheap one night stand fertility patient:(